Taking Care of Ourselves as Coaches: Bottom of the Pile?!

As Executive Coaches we quite rightly put a real focus on our clients, ensuring we are ‘match fit’ as we turn up to see them, and giving them 100%.

But do we do the same for ourselves? Or do our busy lives mean that we never quite get round to this – taking a bit of time for ourselves and recharging our batteries?


I have to admit, it took a long time for the penny to drop for me! By this I mean, if I’m putting myself ‘bottom of the pile’ – looking after everyone else first, taking care of clients’ and others’ needs – that there are actually a few problems with this.

  • First off, I can’t do it for ever, or I will burn out. No matter how strong I am and how well I think I’m coping with all the pressure!
  • Secondly, I’m not actually ‘practicing what I preach’. As I work with coaching clients to support them to live healthy work lives, deal with adversity, overcome challenges, step into their higher selves – I need to be authentic and able to do this for myself. Look after myself. Modelling this is so important, whether or not I actually articulate this with my clients.
  • Thirdly, from a systems perspective, looking after self, being resilient in the force field of organisational systems, and helping others to do this too, is so important in today’s organisations. I see ‘resilience’ appear more and more in organisations sets of competencies for their people and their leaders.

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The Art of Giving Advice

I was reading an HBR article today The Art of Giving and Receiving Advice.  The title piqued my interest.  I often get into discussions with trainee coaches, on the thorny topic of ‘giving advice’!

It is intriguing to think that there could actually be an art to giving advice, but of course, as you think about it, it makes perfect sense.

In the article Edgar Schein said that Advisers can slip up in a couple of ways:
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Guilt, Lies & Cycling

An honest, personal story from Jamie Anderson – the value of our passion in life as well as our hard work ethic and passion for work…

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I stopped cycling at an elite level when I was eighteen years old. After accepting a scholarship to study at the University of Melbourne, I moved to the city, 200kms south of the small country town where I grew up. I moved in with my older brother and sister, and within a few weeks started classes. I also found some work to make ends meet – the first was an evening job as a kitchen-hand in the restaurant of a local pub, and the other was the 6am-8am morning shift at a nearby gas station.

I arrived in Melbourne with some boxes of belongings and my racing bike. But I think I had already accepted that racing at a top level was behind me. The previous year had been really tough emotionally and financially due to my Dad’s illness, and as I looked forward I found it hard to see…

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The Metrics of Human Consciousness: Free Webinar, October 7

The Metrics of Human Consciousness: Free Webinar, October 7.

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Silence is Golden – A Guest Blog from Mandy Hetherton

I’ve been thinking about listening a lot recently, as I’m working with several new action learning groups. Action learning is a process whereby a small group of colleagues come together to help each other work through issues or challenges, by asking questions rather than giving advice. The process of asking questions can lead to surprising insights and new ways of seeing things, enabling the ‘issue-holder’ to find their own way forward in a situation where there is no perfect solution. Groups usually meet about half-a-dozen times, for a period of up to a year, and it’s fascinating to see the shift between questioning and listening over this time.

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Developing Mindful Leaders for the C-Suite

This HBR Blog rings true for me, given my experience of working with leaders at all levels in organisations today. For anyone interested in giving these ideas a go, try Wendy Palmer’s APP (Leadership Embodiment; Centering Practice) – I find the four daily reminders really useful!

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Why Coaching Skills Aren’t Just for Coaches

I keep circling this one….in varied conversations and training and coaching situations.  The skills which coaches build and master, are, I believe, absolutely fundamental to managers and leaders in today’s organisations.  I’m referring to skills such as – the ability to have an artful conversation, the ability to ask questions of others, to probe deeply, in a genuinely curious way and a way which doesn’t get others’ backs up, and finally, the ability to present one’s view in a potent yet truly respectful way.

Why do I say this?

I shall relay some recent experiences.

Not too long ago I completed four days of training for executive coaches.  We covered skills work from the Advocacy-Inquiry model, we talked about Dialogue, and we got really interested in ‘good questions’ (for Peter Senge’s description of Advocacy, Inquiry and Dialogue please go here).  Continue reading

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